Join Lisa Blair and David Bedrick for an authentic, unscripted conversation as they dive into the world of emotional intimacy, conflict, and connection. Drawing on depth psychology, their work with clients around the world, and over 20 years together as a couple, they share wisdom, tips, and personal stories, always adding a dash of playfulness to the mix.
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Ep. 24: From Ice to Water: Making Conflict Fluid
Have you ever wondered whether there is anything deeper going on behind a simple conflict such as “You never take out the trash!”? In this episode, we walk you through step-by-step: How to start with what looks like a “me vs. you” disagreement, to finding deeper “roles” underneath, to arriving at a place of shared understanding, intimacy, and resolution.
Ep. 23: Breaking Free: Unlearning Old Patterns
Patterns develop in our long-term relationships that can be very difficult to break. Oftentimes, these patterns are due to trauma from our childhood leaving a hole of unmet needs that we bring into our adult relationships. We long for the perfect listener, caretaker, or champion that we never had.
Ep. 22: Beyond Eden: Exploring Maturity in Relationships
Somewhere deep inside us, we may dream that our "perfect" romantic relationship will be a kind of Eden—a safe space where we enter fully healed and are met with unconditional love from a partner who meets all of our needs. The problem is, romantic partnership is not that place and our partner is not that perfect person. Then what?
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When Relationships Fall Apart: Conscious and Unconscious Agreements in Relationship
Every relationship has two handshakes: one above the table and one below. The first handshake is a conscious agreement between the two people, saying “We’re going to support each other, care for each other’s needs, listen to and accommodate each other, and compromise when we need to.”
You Can’t Get There From Here: Pathways to Emotional Intimacy in Relationship
People seeking relationship help come to therapy thinking one of three things: (1) they think they are doing something wrong or feel they need to work on their personal issues, (2) they voice complaints about their partner’s attitudes or behaviors, saying that their partner does too much of one thing or not enough of something else, or (3) they are self-critical and want help to be a “better partner.”
Embracing Diversity in Relationships: You, Me, and All That Stuff We're So Scared Of
In this post, we will talk about the first two phases of relationship: phase one, which is all about unity, similarity, and harmony; and phase two, which is all about fostering and embracing diversity. We’ll do this by commenting on some song lyrics, a poem, and a parable.